If you are looking for a list of things that parents don't want to hear, including unsolicited bad parenting advice, you have come to the right place.
When you are a parent you tend to get unsolicited advice all the time – either from people who have no kids (that’s always fun – I wonder what made them experts?) or parents who think they are experts in raising their perfect kids (in that case, refrain from bragging about your perfect kid and let me focus on my own family).
Here is a list of things including BAD PARENTING ADVICE that parents DON’T WANT TO HEAR.
You need to remember this:
Advice from your friends and strangers is like the weather.
Some of it is good and some of it is bad.
Same goes for people: some people are genuinely trying to be helpful, others are just plain rude and judgemental.
Never base your decisions off the advice of people who don’t have to live with the results.
Ignore the haters.
You do what is best for YOU and your family.
Everyone wants to tell you what to do and what’s good for you. They don’t want you to find your own answers; they want you to believe theirs. – Socrates
WHEN YOU ARE A PARENT HERE ARE THINGS YOU DON’T WANT TO HEAR
1 -They don’t look anything like you!
2 -Do they all have the same dad?
3 -Were they all planned?
4 -You look like you aren’t sleeping.
5 -Staying home with the kids all day must be so relaxing.
6 -Your kid is out of control.
7 – I would never let my kid do that.
8 – I would never let my child eat that.
9 – When I’m a parent I’m going to do things differently…
10 – Are they always so annoying?
11 – You could always send them off to a boarding school.
12 – I never had any problems with my kids.
13 – Don’t you feel bad going to work when your kids are little?
14 – Don’t you feel trapped being a Stay At Home mom?
15 – How lucky are you that your husband works hard while you get to stay at home and do nothing?
16 –Your child can’t do this yet?
17 – Parenting is so easy when you have just one child.
18 – My child would never do that.
19 – You should have another child straight away…
20 – You’re too old to have a baby.
21 – You’re too young to have a baby.
22 – Haven’t you got enough kids already?
23 – Some women can’t even have one baby. What are you complaining about?
24 – It only gets harder…
25 – Parenting is easy.
WHEN YOU ARE PREGNANT HERE ARE THE THINGS YOU DON'T WANT TO HEAR
1 – Is it planned?
2 – Who’s the father?
3 – Can I touch your tummy?
4 – Wow you are enormous!
5 – Shouldn’t you quit your job now?
6 – Here’s my birth horror story…
7 – How long are you planning to breastfeed for…because, of course, you are planning to breastfeed right?
8 – Hope you are getting enough sleep now because you won’t be getting any afterwards.
9 – Are you trying for a girl? (When you have only boys so far)
10 – Are you trying for a boy? (When you have only girls so far)
11 – Weren’t you using birth control?
12 – I’m pretty sure you aren’t supposed to eat or drink that.
13 – That can’t be healthy for the baby.
14 – Are you STILL pregnant?
15 – You have been pregnant FOREVER!
16 – When did you guys get married?
17 – You’re eating that?
18 – Are you sure you aren’t carrying more than one baby?
19 – You’re having a natural birth, right?
20 – Let me tell you what you need.
WHEN YOU ARE A BRAND NEW MOM HERE ARE THE THINGS YOU DON'T WANT TO HEAR
1 – You should breastfeed for longer…
2 – You shouldn’t breastfeed for that long…
3 – You should co-sleep.
4 – You shouldn’t hold your child too much.
5 – When my baby was that age, they were already sleeping through the night.
6 -Have you tried controlled crying?
7 – That’s not the right way to hold your baby
8 – You’re planning to feed them all organic food right?
9 – If you mess your baby up now, you mess them up for life.
10 – Parenting is so easy when they are still babies.
THINGS YOU DON’T WANT TO HEAR FROM YOUR CHILD WHEN YOU ARE A PARENT
1 – Can I sleep with you? (At 2am)
2 – I’m thirsty (At 2am)
3 – I accidentally drew on the walls (At any time of the day)
4 -I accidentally drew on the couch (Ditto)
5 – Is Santa real?
6 – I hate you!
7 – I wish you weren’t my parent.
8 – You love my brother/sister more than me.
9 – This is all your fault. You didn’t raise me right.
10 – But I don’t want to go to sleep.
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