Ah, the biggest parenting challenges! If you are looking for tips on how to overcome the biggest parenting challenges in 2 simple steps, then you have come to the right place!
If you are a parent of any age, I’m sure you have already worked out that life and parenthood is full of challenges.
And yep, in case you haven’t guessed, “challenges” is really just another way of saying: “things that stuff up our day,” “problems that ruin our good mood”, “headaches”, “stresses” etc.
Now here’s a bitter pill for you to swallow:
There is absolutely nothing you can do about it.
Whether you like it or not challenges are going to keep coming right at you and they sort of multiply when you have children.
(Little side note: my grandparents used to say “little children, little problems; big children, big problems” which seemed ridiculous when my kids were young and constantly demanded my attention, but gosh, maybe there is some truth to this?)
So now that we have established that challenges are here to stay FOREVER we can move on to working out how to deal with them.
(Please note: if you fall into the small percentage of people that are still in denial and think you can live a life that is all fun and games, void of any hurdles or heartache, please know that you are only making life harder for yourself by not accepting this reality. ACCEPTANCE is the first step to moving forward. You cannot be a master of smashing-challenges if you act surprised every time a challenge pops up).
So now that you know and understand that life is full of challenges and parenthood constantly throws spanners in the works, it’s time to work out how you can deal with them.
You have two choices every time you face a parenting challenge.
You can either:
a) face it head on or
b) ignore the issue and pretend it isn’t there.
Me personally – I would go for option A as option B usually grows into something big and monstrous to grab your attention and as payback for not paying it the proper courtesy the first time round.
So let me state that for you again: you want to pick OPTION A – which is FACING THE CHALLENGE HEAD ON, okay?
Now I’m going to show you how to can tackle ANY problem in two simple steps.
THE FIRST STEP IS THIS:
UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE
Even if you are facing the most obscure, weirdest, one-of-the-kind challenge, it helps to know that somewhere in this world, someone right now is shaking in their boots confused about what to do next about THEIR PROBLEM.
Someone else is shedding tears over their challenge.
Someone else is feeling fearful.
Someone else is panicking.
Someone else is feeling like they have lost all hope.
Imagine what it would be like if all these moms knew that they weren’t alone in feeling this way?
If all of us understood it wasn’t the end of the world but merely one step in life that we needed to take, one challenge we needed to overcome on this journey called life, things would feel different, right?
It helps to remember:
There’s a good chance someone else has faced a similar challenge to yours before you and survived.
Even if you think no one understands your particular problem, other people are right now going through THEIR OWN BATTLES, fighting problems that YOU know nothing about.
So before you begin to worry about how you will solve your problem or conquer your challenge, I want you to take a big, deep breath and stop.
Stop and put everything back into perspective.
In 200 years, you won’t be worrying about this problem. You won’t even be around anymore.
In 10 years’ time, this will be a long forgotten blip in the history of your life.
And in 1 years’ time, you will have already moved on and be worrying about something completely different.
People have paved the way before you.
Search for answers.
Look for help and support.
How did others cope with the same problem you are having?
What did they do to solve this obstacle?
Keep looking and keep asking until you have found a solution to this problem.
Remember we are all in this thing called PARENTHOOD together and even though we may have a different soundtrack playing in the background, it doesn’t mean we aren’t singing the same song.
NOW FOR THE SECOND STEP:
WORK OUT WHAT YOU HAVE TO LEARN FROM THIS CHALLENGE
No, the answer isn’t tears or stress or heartache.
I want you to ponder on what positive thing can be gained from this experience?
Maybe it’s compassion.
Maybe it’s resilience.
Maybe it’s new understanding.
Maybe it’s newfound strength.
Keep searching because the answer is there somewhere – something positive.
Every challenge needs to be accepted and conquered otherwise it will keep popping up in your life in different forms.
Don’t focus on the bad stuff, focus on the good stuff that you can gain from this experience.
As Winston Churchill once said:
“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”
Without you like it or not, you are now facing this challenge.
Nothing will change until YOU change.
There is something to be gained from even the crappiest circumstances. Search for that little gem of wisdom among the pile of dirt.
How can this experience help you GROW? How can it help you become wiser about life?
Now you need to ask yourself:
Are you part of the problem or part of the solution?
What do YOU need to do to make things better?
These two steps together will help make every parenting obstacle seem less overwhelming.