How To Worry Less As A Parent

 

how to worry less as a parent

 

 

How to worry less – if you are looking for some tips on how to worry less and 20 things that parents shouldn’t care too much about, then you have come to the right place!

 

Parenting is hard enough without adding additional stresses to your life.

Trust me, worry is normal but some worry is unnecessary.

Here is a list of things that you can stop worrying about now and what you should really focus on as a parent.

 

1 – WORRY LESS ABOUT:

Whether your child has picked out fashionable clothes that are perfectly matchy-matchy

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

If your child has remembered to brush their teeth and wash their face

 

 

2 – WORRY LESS ABOUT:

Trying to find out which kid started a random fight

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Whether your child actively tries to find a solution to the problem

 

 

3 – WORRY LESS ABOUT:

If your kid is popular or not

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Whether your child is growing up with a kind heart

 

 

4 – WORRY LESS ABOUT:

Your child’s unusual quirks

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Whether you are stifling your child’s true personality

 

 

5 – WORRY LESS ABOUT:

The little things that your kids do wrong

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

The things that your kids do RIGHT

 

6 – WORRY LESS ABOUT:

Where other kids are developmentally

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Accepting that everyone is different and supporting your own child on their journey

 

 

7 – WORRY LESS ABOUT:

What other people think

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Trusting your inner voice and doing what is right FOR YOU

 

 

8 – WORRY LESS ABOUT:

Your kid’s I.Q. – Intelligence Quotient

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Their E.Q. – Emotional Quotient

 

 

9 – WORRY LESS ABOUT:

Your children’s grades

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Their effort and how hard they actually try at school

 

10 – WORRY LESS ABOUT:

Trying to be perfect

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Accepting that everyone is perfectly imperfect

 

 

11 – WORRY LESS ABOUT:

Tomorrow

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Today

 

 

12- WORRY LESS ABOUT:

Keeping up with the Jones’s

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Living within your means 

 

 

13- WORRY LESS ABOUT:

Being your child’s best friend

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Being a parent, who sets appropriate boundaries

 

 

14- WORRY LESS ABOUT:

How life is crazy and stressful

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Coming up with coping strategies to deal with the chaos and a game-plan to remove the unnecessary stresses from your life

 

 

15- WORRY LESS ABOUT:

Blaming others

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Taking some responsibility for your actions and life

 

16- WORRY LESS ABOUT:

What your child will do for a career

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

How they will nurture their future family

 

17- WORRY LESS ABOUT:

Talking the talk

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Walking the walk

 

 

18- WORRY LESS ABOUT:

Taking things personally

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Keeping things in perspective

 

 

19- WORRY LESS ABOUT:

Being a supermom

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Being a mom who simply does her best

 

 

20- WORRY LESS ABOUT:

Giving your children everything they want

AND FOCUS MORE ON:

Giving your children what they need (more presence, less presents)

 

 

So how do you actually worry less?

 

Great question! And because I was, once upon a time, a bit of a worry wart, I have searched long and hard for an answer.

So here it is – well at least something that puts my own mind at ease. The following information is is an excerpt from my book THEY SAY I’M SPECIAL – 100 TIPS FOR RAISING A HAPPY & RESILIENT CHILD WITH SPECIAL NEEDS.

If you have a child with special needs like I do, then you will be well acquainted with worry I’m sure. Worrying isn’t fun. To the contrary, it sucks! But here is how I have managed to worry less every day:

 

I speak all the time about the importance of worrying less but the truth is it’s easier said than done.

 

Sometimes my own mind wanders off down dark paths, towards places it shouldn’t and I find myself feeling panicked and trapped in a web full of ugly worst-case scenarios.

So why is worrying so bad? Well there are so many reasons. For starters, worrying about something doesn’t ever change the outcome. It doesn’t stop the bad things from happening but it does stop you from enjoying the good.

Worrying also often creates problems that weren’t even there in the first place.  Fact: the vast majority of things we worry about DON’T EVEN HAPPEN.

Worrying is such a waste of time because it doesn’t change anything. All it does is steal your joy. It doesn’t empty tomorrow of your troubles, instead it empties today of your strength. It’s like praying for something you don’t even want. And is that how you want to be spending your precious time?

So heed the words of Shantideva, an eighth century Indian Buddhist monk (gosh I love this!):

 

 If you can solve your problem, then what is the need of worrying?

If you cannot solve it, then what is the use of worrying?

 

Or how about the wise Dalai Lama:

 

If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it,

Then there is no need to worry.

If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying,

There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.

 

You can’t change yesterday but you can definitely ruin today by worrying about tomorrow. 

 

Please bear this advice in mind every time a nugget of worry works its way inside your mind.

 

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