Protecting Your Child From Bullying - Here are 10 ways to help protect or buffer your kids from consequences of future bullying.

Protecting Your Child From Bullying - Here are 10 ways to help protect or buffer your kids from consequences of future bullying.


Protecting your child from bullying?


If you are looking for 10 Ways To Protect Your Child From Bullying and Bully-proof Your Kids, then you have come to the right place!


The topic of bullying has been on everyone’s mind for a while now and for a good reason too:


Bullying has the potential to destroy lives.


In fact it HAS destroyed many lives, with some kids unable to cope with the negative, soul-crushing behaviour.

Now thankfully my children have never been subjected to it so far but that doesn’t mean they are immune to bullying in the future. No one, not even adults, can confidently predict that their child will pass through life unscathed by the consequences of bullying.


So what exactly is bullying?


Out of all the definition for bullying my favourite is the one used for Australian schools.


It says:


Bullying is an ongoing misuse of power in relationships through repeated verbal, physical and/or social behaviour that causes physical and/or psychological harm.

It can involve an individual or a group misusing their power over one or more persons. Bullying can happen in person or online, and it can be obvious (overt) or hidden (covert).

Bullying of any form or for any reason can have long-term effects on those involved, including bystanders.


Single incidents and conflict or fights between equals, whether in person or online, are not defined as bullying.

Bullying does not include mutual disagreements or not liking someone or one-off acts of meanness, intimidation or aggression.


Protecting Your Child From Bullying - Here are 10 ways to help protect or buffer your kids from consequences of future bullying.







Physical Bullying


This is usually the most obvious form of bullying whereby a victim if kicked, punched, hit, spat on or pushed around.

(Please note this is a CRIME – Assault and Battery and should be immediately addressed).


Verbal Bullying


This includes cruel teasing, name-calling, derogatory remarks and being made fun of in a hurtful, negative way.


Emotional Bullying


This includes spreading nasty rumours or lies and playing mind games that make the victim feel excluded and ostracized.




This includes being intentionally left out or not allowed to join a group.



So what can you do to help prevent your child from being bullied?


This post is for moms who want to equip their children with tools that will hopefully help them should they ever face bullying in the future.

I honestly think that in the case of bullying, prevention is better than the cure.

Indeed I would prefer to give some thought NOW as to how I can potentially help my kids deal with bullying rather than discover later that they were subjected to it and I failed to give them the right tools to deal with it.



Here are 10 tips that you can share with your child or teen today to help protect them from or buffer the consequences of future bullying.



1  – Teach them to recognize the signs of bullying.


Read to them the definition above and make sure they clearly understand the difference between bullying and a little feud with someone they may not like (THERE IS A DIFFERENCE!)


2   – News alert: For every bully victim there is a bully and you need to make sure your child isn’t sitting on the other side of the fence.


Bullies often don’t realize they are causing harm. They may think their teasing is funny or innocent, when in fact, the victim feels like dying on the inside. Teach them that WORDS HURT.


3  – Teach your child to speak up.


There are often many bystanders (innocent kids and teens) who witness bullying firsthand and don’t do a thing about it.

They don’t want to rock the boat or maybe they don’t know what they can do to stop it.

Help your child recognize that if they are standing by and say NOTHING, then they are giving more power to the bully who confuses their silence with acceptance (not the same thing!).


4 – Make them watch the following video!


This clip was played to my son’s class by his teacher and it shares one fabulous tip on how to deal with bullies.




5 – Teach your child the value of having thick skin.


I have written about the concept of having thick skin before but it can take time for younger children to learn to develop this skill of resilience.

You can help steer them away from feeling over sensitive about things in everyday life by reminding them of the following facts:


–              It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of you; it only matters what YOU think of yourself

–              You don’t need other people’s validation or approval

–              Your value is not determined by others

–              We are all uniquely different and that’s what makes us special

–              Do what is best for you and not for other people

–              We should all walk to the beat of our own drum.

–              Be a leader and not a sheep or follower.



6 –  Let your child know they are NEVER, EVER alone.


The biggest problem with bullying is that it is often a silent pain that children don’t share with others.

You may think “of course my child knows they can come to me if they have a problem” while the truth is:

a) Your child may not even recognize bullying for what it is,

b) They may not want to worry you with their problems or

c) For whatever random reason they opt not to disclose it to you.


Don’t assume your child will tell you if someone is giving them grief at school or anywhere else in their life. Instead actively pull them aside and say:


Hey, this is what bullying is and if someone does this to you, please come and tell me.

I won’t do anything if you don’t want me to say or do something BUT if you need me to listen, I will listen.

If you need any help, I am ALWAYS here for you.

You are NOT alone and together we can get through anything together.”



7 – Teach your kids not to want to get even.


It’s a natural tendency to want to retaliate when someone has hurt you but honestly, payback is not the long term answer.

It may feel like a great temporary solution and in the short term it may feel good, but it will ultimately leave your child feeling more empty and spiteful than before.


Everyone needs to keep in mind the following quotes:


Blowing out someone else’s candle doesn’t make yours shine any brighter.

Pulling someone down will never help you reach the top.

If people are trying to bring you down, it only means that you are already above them.

A negative mind will never give you a positive life.


Never stoop to their level.


Meanness is a sign of weakness.

Kindness is a sign of strength.

They insult you because they are insecure of something that they are lacking

The best revenge you can have is simply moving on and getting over your troubles.

Don’t give anyone the satisfaction of seeing you suffer.


8 – Remember your goal as a parent.


It isn’t to hide your child away from bullies and keep them insulated in a sterile environment where they never have to face hardship or struggles.

Unfortunately the truth is we all face hurdles at some point in life.

What our kids need instead are the skills to stay confident and strong in the face of these difficulties.

And guess where they usually first learn these all important skills?

That’s right – from you, which brings us to the next important point…


9 – Model respectful, compassionate behavior and healthy relationships at home.


You are your child’s most important role model and home is where they learn what is and isn’t normal behavior.

Do you let people walk all over you?

Are you regularly pressured into doing things you don’t want to do?

Do you shrug off insults and bad behavior from others?


One of the best way to help protect your child from bullying (or conversely from becoming a bully) is to show them what is normal healthy relationships look like.


They need to grow up knowing that they are worthy of love, respect and honesty.

They need to know they deserve to be treated well, so that they can recognize bad behavior when it is happening and do their best to put a stop to it.


10 – Finally encourage positive behavior.


Your child needs to know that yes, it’s okay to feel scared and walk away from a bully.

They can also stand tall and stand up for themselves if they feel confident enough to do so.

This behavior can be modeled from an early age.

Teach them what to say if someone is bothering them.

Practice role-plays and give them different options for what they do if faced with a persistent bully.




If none of this works and your child continues to be the victim of bullying, please do not be afraid to step in and intervene.

This is your child’s life we are ultimately talking about and their well-being should be your most important priority if the very fiber of their personality and confidence is being ripped apart and destroyed by bullying.

Don’t worry about rocking the boat.

Don’t worry about ruffling feathers.

Do what you can to help your child and potentially save their life.



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