youngest child syndrome

the youngest child syndrome

 

If you are looking for how to avoid the mistakes commonly made parenting the baby of the family and the youngest child syndrome, then you have definitely come to the right place!

 

 

Standing out from among their siblings is the baby of the family.

 

This child has a unique position among their brothers and sisters, a position that is often coveted by all.

As parents, we generally treat each of our children differently from one another.

Unfortunately, there are many things that we may do when parenting our youngest child that can become obstacles to their personal growth.

We would be wise to identify these common mistakes and learn how we can avoid them.

 

1 – Spoiling Them

 

When our youngest baby enters the family, we tend to get nostalgic.

Knowing that this may be the last child that we buy toys for or take on vacations, can lead us into a period of never-ending indulgence upon our little ones.

This will not sit well with older siblings, who may remember you being more frugal at an earlier time in your lives.

It is also of no benefit to a child to be completely spoiled.

 

WHAT CAN YOU DO?

 

Although you want to cherish every moment with your baby, as hopefully you did with your others, be sure to enforce limits when it comes to spending money or buying treats.

Fair is only fair.

 

 

2 – Always Letting Them Win

 

Because we know that our youngest child will not have the maturity of their older siblings, we can get into a habit of letting them get their way all the time.

As adults, we naturally give in to little ones when there is some sort of competition involved, and we expect our older children to do the same for their younger siblings.

Older children may have acquired a few extra years, but they are still children.

You need to ensure that you are being fair with all your children, no matter what age.

 

WHAT CAN YOU DO?

 

Make a point of letting your oldest and middle children win sometimes, too.

After all, they deserve their childhood just as much as the lucky one who happened to arrive last.

 

 

3 – Comparing Them to Older Siblings

 

Perhaps because of our determination to help our first-born succeed and to keep them ahead of the pack when it comes to everything, first-born children are often focused and driven.

This can lead to unfair comparisons when the middle and youngest children come along.

All children are different, whether it is because of birth order or temperament.

Environment plays a role as well, and this changes from child to child – even in the same home.

 

WHAT CAN YOU DO?

 

If you hold the bar too high for your youngest children, and expect them to excel in exactly the same areas as their older siblings, you will disappoint yourself and you could harm your child.

Allow them to be unique and wonderful just the way they are, whatever their personality.

 

4 – Having Low Expectations

 

On the opposite end of the spectrum is the tendency to realize that our youngest child doesn’t have the same areas of interest as their older sibling, and then we drop the bar of expectations.

Every child will have different strengths and weaknesses, and it is up to us as parents to celebrate and encourage each one.

Just because a younger child may not excel in similar areas as their siblings, doesn’t mean you should treat them as though they have no potential.

 

WHAT CAN YOU DO?

 

Don’t become so relaxed and complacent with parenting that you give up on being as attentive or dedicated to raising your last child.

Instead find their strengths, and encourage them in those areas.

Every child has their own gifts – help your child find theirs!

 

 

All in all, the youngest children certainly have the most interesting position within the family.

 

Some say they are the luckiest.

(Yep, I myself was the eldest and I can definitely say my baby sister  benefited from having her two older sisters pave the way for her.)

The babies of the family are indeed often the “life of the party,” so much more easy-going and relaxed.

But that is usually because YOU are more easy-going and relaxed with your later children.

Be sure to embrace their great strengths and qualities, avoid these potential parenting mistakes and do your best to raise your youngest as best as you can.

 

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